So…my favorite scripture is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. You know it…it’s the “love” scripture. Forrest Gump said, “I’m not a smart man, but I know what love is.” He did. He really did. Think about the movie and how he waited for Jenny.
This is it. This is the essence of what we should do to one another and ourselves! But guess what? WE DON’T. Do you know why we don’t love each other? Because we don’t believe that God loves us.
I know you’re saying…”I know God loves me…that doesn’t apply to me!” But it so does. We know on an academic or intellectual level that God loves us. Absolutely. it says so in John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” You know that. I know that. My daughter knew that at 3 years old. But I dare you to consider this…do you believe it?
Yesterday, I visited a friend’s church. I don’t really like to do that because I’m usually serving in ministry each Sunday at my own church and hate to not be present. But, I’ve learned that God will put you where you need to be to hear what you need to hear. So…at the behest of my friend, I visited a church that was not my own. The message was simple for the most part and the pastor suggested that we don’t believe that God loves us and that’s why we treat people the way we do.
Think about it. When we lie to people, we’re really saying, they aren’t important enough for us to tell them the truth about something. I think about the books I read. I used to not like to write a review if I didn’t like a book because I was worried about hurting an author’s feelings. When I became an author, I had that fear even more. In the last few weeks though, I’ve come to the conclusion, that not saying I didn’t like a book is lying by omission. In the grand scheme of things, my opinion of a book is not that important, but this is just an example. If the grammar is horrible, the editing is deplorable and the plot has holes, SOMEBODY should have stopped that particular book from EVER being published. Unfortunately, that does not happen and the book market is flooded with less than publish-worthy books and when someone tells a friend they want to write a book, they get a response like, “Oh everybody is writing a book these days.” That’s not demonstrating love. You’re not honoring a person by withholding the truth from them.
That didn’t resonate? Well let’s look at it this way. When you see a person that has something you don’t, whether that’s a material thing, a gift or talent, a personality trait, a physical trait or whatever, what do you do? Sometimes, women are the worst culprits of this. We see another woman and via a quick once over, we’ve made up our minds about her. “She should be ashamed for coming out the house like that.” In reality, we might be saying on the inside, “Why don’t my thighs look like that?” But this is envy. Love does not envy. (It’s right there in the text…look at it…).
This goes back to us not believing that God loves us enough to give us exactly what we were meant to have. The thighs God gave you were meant for you and no one else. I remember once I was out walking and a lady stopped me to say that she loved my legs. WHA? I hated my legs. She said that all of her life, she’s had “these lil chicken legs” and would love to have big beautiful legs like mine. I didn’t know what to say to that because at the time, I was thinking the opposite. She said I should be sure to show them off because everyone isn’t blessed like me. Can you say floored?
Now, I understand this scripture a little better. I have accepted that there are things about myself that I may be unhappy with, but God made me and I can love all of me no matter what flaws I may find. In His eyes, I’m the way I am supposed to be. He loves me, and I believe that He loves me. I’m making it my business to believe that no matter how many times I have to say it every day or how many places I have to post it each day. If I don’t believe that God loves me, then I can’t love myself. If I can’t love myself, then I can’t love anyone else. I’m special and I have a unique set of gifts, talents and abilities that He gave me to perform a specific task for Him, so today, I embrace that.
He loves me so much, He sent his Son to die for me. I can’t thank Him enough. Would you have given YOUR kid to save all of humanity? That type of love is unfathomable. But today, I believe that kind of love is possible. I believe that I’m loved that way. There’s nothing I did to deserve it and there’s nothing I can do to earn it. Here’s the kicker….there’s also nothing I can do to make Him not love me. Imagine that.
Be free of your pain, your hurt and your self hate and know that God loves you. Accept it and move on.
Until next time,